Love is not a feeling. Feelings come and go; they change constantly. A relationship based only on feelings will struggle.
Love is not attraction or desire. Attraction fades and desire is selfish.
Love is not infatuation. Love does not blind people, but rather opens their eyes.
Love is not an escape for the senses; it is an awakening of the senses.
Love is not happy or easy all of the time. It stirs up many emotions and can be immensely challenging.
Love is not exclusive. It does not only socialize with certain groups of people. It is as omnipresent as air, and equally contaminated by human abuse. But we have enough to survive. It is easier to see polluted air (polluted love), while pure air (pure love) is usually invisible to us.
You can find love in some of the choices you make, in some of the people around you, and in many living things. You will not find love in things with imitation life-like qualities: technology, money, entertainment, etc. They are merely tools. We cannot describe technology, money, or entertainment as “loving” or “compassionate”. These adjectives are reserved for living beings, like people.
Love is a puzzle made from many pieces: trust, respect, admiration, devotion, self-sacrifice, patience, kindness, empathy, and forgiveness.
It is the greatest gift we have to give and receive.
Written by Andrew Zeller - December 28, 2011 (Seoul, South Korea)